Carl Jung is quoted in saying, “ I don’t aspire to be a good man. I aspire to be a whole man.” When I first heard this, I felt resistance in my being, because I have a desire to be good. As I feel into that it’s more that I have the desire to be seen as good by others. There’s a knowing inside myself that I am good, but, What is good? Good feels like a judgement that comes from outside of myself. True feels more valuable than good. Whole feels more like truth.

In a world where the pursuit of goodness often takes center stage, a powerful and transformative perspective emerges—one that champions the concept of wholeness as the ultimate goal. Wholeness, defined as a state of completeness achieved through the integration of fragmented parts, represents a departure from the traditional pursuit of goodness. In this article, we delve into the depths of this paradigm shift, exploring how the integration of suppressed, denied, and repressed aspects of our being aligns with the laws of nature, the very essence of truth itself.

Wholeness: The Completeness of Self

At its core, wholeness is an invitation to embrace all aspects of oneself. It acknowledges that our identities are not singular, but rather a symphony of diverse emotions, thoughts, and experiences. In contrast, the pursuit of goodness can sometimes lead to the suppression of certain parts deemed incompatible with societal norms. By integrating these fragmented aspects, we embark on a journey towards a more authentic existence, unburdened by the need to conform to external ideals.

Integration: Reclaiming Our Disowned Parts

To be truly whole, we must confront the shadows lurking in the corners of our psyche. These fragments, often disowned or repressed, represent untapped sources of power and wisdom. The pursuit of goodness might inadvertently lead us to disavow these darker aspects, relegating them to the depths of our subconscious. However, embracing these aspects, acknowledging their existence, and integrating them into our being can lead to profound personal growth and a richer understanding of ourselves.

Wholeness as the Law of Nature

Just as truth is the law that governs existence, the pursuit of wholeness aligns with the fundamental principles of nature. In nature, diversity is celebrated, and harmony arises from the interplay of myriad elements. Similarly, the integration of suppressed aspects within ourselves harmonizes our inner landscape, leading to a more balanced and cohesive sense of self. Wholeness, then, becomes a natural extension of the very laws that govern the universe.

The Program, the Math, the Music: A Symphony of Being

Life itself can be seen as a symphony, with each individual contributing a unique melody. The pursuit of goodness might inadvertently limit the notes we play, conforming to a predetermined composition. However, the journey towards wholeness encourages us to embrace the entirety of our musical range. By acknowledging our suppressed and denied aspects, we add depth and complexity to the symphony of our existence, creating a harmonious masterpiece that resonates with the rhythms of the universe.

The pursuit of wholeness stands as a transformative alternative to the conventional pursuit of goodness. By integrating the fragmented parts that have been suppressed, disowned, repressed, and denied, we embark on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and authenticity. This journey is not only aligned with the laws of nature and truth itself but also contributes to the grand symphony of life. As we weave our unique melodies into the fabric of existence, we move beyond the constraints of goodness, embracing the profound beauty and completeness that comes with being whole.

I offer Coaching for integrating rejected aspects and coming back to wholeness. For one on one appointments or group experiences email me at glouise751@gmail.com.